Guest Author: Angela Higgins
There are arguably two types of women in the world, women men love women men leave. Which one are you? It doesn’t really matter which side you fall on at this point, because with the help of this article and some of the other resources on this site, you can become and remain the women men love for the rest of your life.
The first step to make sure your man will love you the way you want to be loved, is to know what it is your man needs in the relationship and then give it to him. Sounds like an oversimplified approach doesn’t it? It’s not that the principle is complicated, the fact is though that this seemingly basic thing is messed up more often in relationships than you might expect. Now, let’s be clear. What we’re talking about here is not that a woman ought be completely subservient to their man and do whatever he wants even if she doesn’t want to do it.
Nothing could be further from the truth. In reality no man (unless he’s “damaged goods”) wants a women who is a door mat. A real man will relish a partner with a mind of her own to challenge and excite him. But a lot of men just love it when they are made to feel like their woman is their biggest fan. Sure, its an ego thing, but hero worshipping your other half can also be a really fantastic element of a relationship. How great is it to think that your parter is awesome, and to know they feel the same way about you?
At the risk of overgeneralising, some women operate under the mistake belief that if they keep their partner satisfied sexually this equates to meeting all their mans needs. Certainly there’s nothing wrong with that, but most men have greater depth than this and most women would prefer their men’s focus to extend beyond bedroom acrobatics.
In order to really form a long lasting bond it helps to base your relationship on more than just physical intimacy. Whether we like it or not, we will all get older and as we do sex will become more difficult for various physical reasons. If your whole relationship is just based on physical intimacy, how can it survive once that is taken out of the equation?
The women that men leave, believe it or not, are the women who try too hard to be whatever he wants. Your man needs to feel special and loved, admired, and desired, but it won’t mean very much to him if it doesn’t seem sincere. If he feels like you are just being pliable the risk is that he will seek someone more ‘real’.
One of the most important things you can do in your relationship is to be receptive, both in terms of what your partner needs and what they don’t want. Perhaps your man is stimulated by your wit, intelligence and strength. Perhaps what he loves in you most is your compassion for others. Perhaps your man hates conflict and is looking for a cruisy relationship, or perhaps he really needs a little bit of passion and conflict to keep things exciting. Each couples needs and desires will be individual to them alone, and as long as the larger dynamics click you can use the above principles to make sure you remain desirable to your man on so many levels.
So for all you women out there, you do have a choice. You can be either type of women: women men love women men leave. It’s entirely up to you. It doesn’t mean giving up your own identity, it just means trying to understand your man and what he really wants and needs from you.
If you’ve already lost your love, here you can discover how to get your ex back and keep them for good.